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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

The Addictive, All-Or-Nothing Personality: Your Strongest Tool Or Your Worst Enemy? "Harnessing the Power"- Part 4

BY Phil Stevens

From reading the first three installments you have a fairly broad and clear understanding of the traits a person with this type of personally faces, the good the bad and the ugly. In this final installment I will give some recommendations on how to harness those traits and make them work for you.

















Explain how you can twist even the proposed negatives and learn to control them to work in your favor. How to harness your natural ability to make things happen along with a tendency to go over board. Give a few systems you can use alone, or combined, to reach even greater heights, and do so with no, or minimal personal damage.

"You can't"

Love it, enjoy and relish in your ability to prove this statement wrong. Just the simple realization that this is your on signal your gas pedal is the number one thing we must do. We can then learn how to manage ourselves and that not every single time we are challenged do we have to prove this wrong. Though I believe many or most times it can be a very positive thing to, but just be sure and..

"Pick your Battles"

Have your goals clear in your mind. Write them down. We know how to accept the negative in any situation and live with them. So be sure that you are not taking on a something out of line with your greater goals just do to being challenged. We have a tendency to get a bit ADD and take on multiple goals at once thoroughly convinced in our own head we will win them all at the same time even if they compete against one another.

We need to learn to be a bit more laser sharp with our power and focus and put it into one or a few related goals at once, only take on so MUCH. Pick a few things and Knock them out of the park prior to moving to the next one. A bit of management will allow you to make even greater progress, even faster, and more enjoyable due to.

Managing Your Stress"

Remember we thrive on this but have a tendency to load on to much of a good thing at times to the point of being over whelmed, That's when we act, and often do our best, When we are on the verge of breaking we really tend to make things happen.

Try and learn to manage this a bit more and act a bit earlier, just the act of choosing your battles like above will help this as you wont have varied competing goals going at once, but as well even If you have multiple glass try and learn to act a bit sooner, Let your skills shine prior to being overloaded and a BIG one..

"Have a Release Valve"

We tend to get very laser focused and jump head first into thing and drop all other parts of our lives and people we know and love. That's largely OK but try and schedule a bit of a breather. Give your self at least one escape hatch, maybe it's a night a week, a day you can try and let stuff go. Then its BACK at it.

We cant drop our whole selves we work best when we are loaded and focused on a goal, Knocking things down left and right living to beat what it is we have taken on, That shouldn't change but if we take a simple step back her and there for even a few hours or one day it can keep us with even greater charge and fire to keep attacking and likely will keep those around us, friends family a bit more sane.

We have a tendency to be misinterpreted by those close to us due to our ability to block things out and our laser focus. People have a tendency to feel shorter, say we are cold, or feel we don't care and that's not it at all. Its simply who and how we are this is how we attack our day, our goals and they need to realize that and that just because we are 100% focused on some goal at this point does not mean they aren't in our heads as well, or we don't care.

Its very much the opposite but this is just how we work. We have to be around strong and or understanding people. Those that understand your type and if we give that or those small release valves and then Back at our goal the majority of our days we and they will both be in a better place to making progress with les grief.

We as well by default are very strong people and don't let a thing get to us, but I don't care how strong you are you at some point need a break, need a release as well. You have to have that person, that time, or place that you can go and not be needed to act. That you can relax as all other parts of your life are action.

Again you have to have some strong people around you as well that don't always need, but you all can just be, relax and refuel. We have a tendency to take on so many things, tasks and people in need, helping working, building that these small releases in time and with people are a must or you'll start to overheat.

Cycle Your Extremes

Learn to be all go and then learn to shut it DOWN and have times you coast and recharge. We can have a tendency to try and turn a sprint into a marathon. The two are like oil and water. Learn to cycle your training your life, and your attacks at Large long term goals. Periodize them. Take sharp sprints up the mountain then take some time to make slow progress, set camp and rest then UP again.

You cant go all out to long before you crash and burn, and man do we ever have a tendency to do that. We hit it in passing gear, pedal on the floor and never let off, and not just to the point that the cars smoking a bit, we keep her pegged Long past that and will rap it out tell she blows. Then we just end up on that yoyo or roller coaster.

That path you see many do out of choice the path that NEVER gets anyone to any great goal. That perpetual gain. Lose, gain lose, two steps forward to back approach. You don't want to ride that coaster, Those people are usually right next to most of the people that try and make that Very slow calculated progress.

Trying to slowly skate a few lines at once and make gentle gradual progress on tow or more goals. They usually end up maybe half way up and or all those roads, or little better and never really reach anything great as they don't concentrate on one or give it the passion or attention it needs.

Let it rip, hit the gas, take a NICE big step out of the comfort zone, but learn to shut down the afterburners down prior to over heating and keep a more sane and gradual climb up the road to your goal going while the engines cool for another big Thrust. After a nice big shot out of the norm take a minute to get used to your advances prior to Hitting it again and then short pit stops along the way after you reach some heights you had set.

This spikes and gradual climb approach will have you making very fast and consistent progress up what ever mountain you choose and by managing the stressors of those sprints you'll end up hitting your top speed more often and for a longer total time reaching those goals faster, our with the car in closer to one piece then had you put her to the floor the whole trip.

Lastly.

"Smash the Squirrel, Stop for the Deer"

Its OK if on the road you blindly run down a squirrel or two, but keep an eye open for those larger critters you might be losing sight of or ignoring they can make a wreck of your road in a hurry. Learn to use and control the power you have to turn things off. To ignore pain, pleasure, physical, emotional and tangible objects or people. Much like picking your battles, try and be a little more in tune with what your blocking out.

Make sure your empowering you and not falsely empowering and actually giving that something power over you. Make sure your not ignoring something in the long term that is actually leading to great damage that you have not first recognized, and accepted, as a something that's needed to reach your goals, and therefore made a none issue. It can be easy to lose sight or let your power to ignore get out of hand.

That's it. It covers the bases and basic of a very powerful set of personality traits

I hope this strikes some good dialogue and can be good for both those with these personality traits, and those who seek to adopt a few of these. Giving you some pointer in how to use them what they are and what to look out for.

So I'll just leave you with an empowering "You Can't"

Now go prove me wrong

Originally Published on StaleyTraining.com

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